Happy Wednesday ,
I stuff up. Sometimes I stuff up BIG. And frankly, owning our stuff sucks.
Recently I jumped on a call with someone and tried to name my discomfort with something that had happened. But at its heart, I was annoyed and felt like I’d been ignored. And instead of opening up the conversation to find a way forward, I launched what felt to them like (and really was) an attack. It was ugly.
And they responded as most people who feel attacked respond - rightfully so. They launched a counter attack, defensive manoeuvres and let their own ugly out. I recognised what I'd done almost immediately but it was too late, it was out.
My reactive side had jumped into the driver’s seat. It happens less and less with practice, but it’s not never. And when it happens, I have to admit I’m human, own my ugly and work my way through it, no matter how the other person responds. That includes if their own ugly pops up.